It is so easy to blame the outside world for the all the bad things that have happened in our lives. We find any excuse to use what is around us to justify our own actions.
How have we become so disconnected that most of the time we don’t own our actions? Taking full responsibility of them play a huge part in remembering who you are.
Constantly deflecting and pointing the finger at others, simply keeps you in a loop of life never changing, always being written with the same program, perception. By us looking at our actions and the part we play in them, while holding ourselves accountable, is one of the most important things you can do to better know who you are and what makes you move in this life.
You see without this analysis we can never focus on what doesn’t serve us. I remember thinking, oh I didn’t get the job because I was over qualified, or the interviewer didn’t like me. My outfit was wrong, I spoke too much, I would think of a million excuses to justify what had happened, when in fact looking closely I could see that that position that I was looking to get and wanted, would exhaust my soul, and didn’t align with who I was. Would drain me and is what was expected of me. Someone else, something else placed this program into my person, it wasn’t something that I woke up one day and said yes that is what I want to do for the rest of my life and it will bring me so much joy. No it was more like, oh that is a good paying job, you need to find something reliable to pay the bills, to survive in life.
That there looking at my true self and why I was chasing something that I didn’t even want made me look more and more at who I truly was. I knew what I didn’t want, the hardest question after that was what did I want?
Having been a people pleaser and a devoted member of society, I never took the time to ask myself that question. I didn’t hear my soul screaming at me, I ignored that inside voice of intuition that was leading me elsewhere. That auto pilot was always kicking in until I took control of everything that was in my belief system and did a real test on them. Where they my beliefs and if they weren’t, how did I really feel about them?
Allowing yourself to take ownership of your actions means admitting that if anything went astray, you were a conscious player in the role you assumed. It wasn’t forced on you. No one told you who to be. You simply accepted the script. And that realization is the most liberating part—because if you accepted it, you also have the power to rewrite it.