Have you ever had the feeling that everything was noise? You turn on social media and noise, everything that is going on externally being thrown at you. Some things pass but others grab your attention and three hours later you forgot exactly what you had planned to do that day.
We live in a world where external distractions are part of this experience. The noise the constant energy seeking programs looking to siphon our energy for them and not have us use it to better understand who we are and in focussing on creating a life by choice.
I know this may sound crazy to some but we have the most desired and valuable commodity that others seek and that is our attention, our energy itself.
How many times are we around that certain friend that all they can do is complain, and share their struggles looking for insight or just to vent, and afterwards you leave the conversation feeling drained? That there is how we give away our energy and not use it to help us grow.
Now are we suppose to ignore those around us and not help, depends. If a person is constantly seeking your advice and making it always about them and not acting and doing something, then yes, walk away as they are not committed in changing their lives and looking for you to keep them company.
I speak through experience, countless hours, days, turned into years of hearing other people’s problems and offering solutions and guidance. Thinking that I was suppose to help and heal all those that came searching, it wasn’t an ego thing, it was a belief that I actually thought I had to put others ahead of myself. I would get emotionally and physically drained by many, especially family, but my programming at the time was to just deal with it as I was doing the right thing.
It wasn’t until I saw the feedback given, that when things were good no one ever came around, nobody “needed” Nancy. So with their lives were going well, which is what I truly wanted, mine was still stagnant, in the same place.
Taking care of everyone except for myself. I wanted the act of me helping to be reciprocated, but only came to realize that the only person I can and should control is myself. I was the one who assumed the role of helper, and others gravitated to me. The universe sent them my way, the external world was showing me what was going on internally. However you want to say it, in the end I saw that the distraction of others cost me my development.
There are so many forms of distractions that we create and others that are placed into our world. Choosing to have a family is a large one. I love my husband and children and give them all that I can but there was a time that all I did was give them all of me. Endless support, always putting their needs and desires first, thinking that I would have enough time at the end of the day to take care of myself, only to fall flat on my ass exhausted and burnt out, no energy left and thinking that tomorrow it would all happen again. Damn another program installed.
Seeing these patterns and understanding what has been installed in us is the key to moving forward and remembering who you are. Firstly I am a person, who needs to take care of myself and my energy before being fit enough to take care of those I chose to surround me. And that is not selfish at all, society has us thinking that if we think of ourselves first that we are narcissists or selfish. I am here to say NO, take care of yourself, you didn’t come here to be a victim or martyr. But with that I also say, whatever you choose to create in this world it is your responsibility to care for it and give it what it needs to be successful. Everything I chose in my life I take full responsibility as I created it and need to sit with myself more often to consciously choose those realities.
The greatest distraction is anything that keeps you from sitting with yourself long enough to remember who you are. And the greatest act of rebellion against all of it — the noise, the energy drains, the programs, the chaos — is choosing yourself. Consistently. Unapologetically. Every single day.
That is not selfish. That is The Return.